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Published on Sunday 12 May 2024

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Why We Think We're Always Right

Discover how our own thinking tricks us into believing we're always right, influencing our choices and views.


Self-serving bias is when people think good things happen because of them, but bad things happen because of others or something outside their control. This way of thinking can mess up how we see the world, and it can hurt our relationships and decision-making. Let's look at some clear examples, talk about the problems it causes, and think about how to deal with it more logically.

Examples of Self-Serving Bias

Example 1: Job Success and Failure Imagine someone at work gets a promotion and says it's all because of their hard work and great skills. But if they don't get the promotion, they might blame it on office politics or a boss who doesn't support them. This shows self-serving bias, where the person always thinks highly of themselves no matter what happens.

Example 2: Academic Performance A student who does well on a test might say it's because they're smart and studied hard. But if they do badly, they might blame the test questions or say the teacher didn't explain things well. This is another example of self-serving bias, where the student doesn't see their own role in failing.

Consequences of Self-Serving Bias

Self-serving bias can cause a lot of problems, like:

  • Poor Learning and Growth: If people don't admit their own mistakes, they won't learn from them, which stops them from getting better at what they do.
  • Relationship Strain: This bias can lead to fights and misunderstandings with others, both at home and at work, especially when people won't take responsibility for things going wrong.
  • Distorted Reality: Always thinking too highly of oneself can make someone have unrealistic expectations, which might lead to failures and disappointments.

Logical Interpretation and Overcoming the Bias

A logical way to think about events means looking at both what you did and what others or the situation did to help or hinder the outcome. For example, if someone succeeds, logical thinking would consider their hard work as well as help they might have gotten from others or good timing.

Logical Interpretation: Seeing Events as Part of Bigger Patterns

Instead of just thinking good or bad results come only from what we do or what happens to us, a smarter approach sees them as part of bigger patterns and chances that we sometimes can't control. Every success or failure is just one outcome that comes from many different things working together, not just from what we do alone.

Moving Forward with Statistical Thinking

To really get past self-serving bias, thinking with statistics helps us see:

  • Understanding Variability: Realize that what happens to us is part of bigger trends and chances, which helps us not to blame ourselves or others unfairly.
  • Analyzing Patterns Over Time: Look at the bigger picture of our actions and results over time to see deeper reasons and patterns.
  • Embracing Uncertainty: Accept that some things in life are just random and can't always be predicted or controlled.

By adopting this kind of thinking, we can understand our part in what happens more clearly, make better decisions, and have a more balanced view of ourselves.